Okay guys, in all that ranting (see post below tittled "What to Say") I forgot tell you that last night for dinner Dad had a piece of steak. We cut off a piece of the steak and cooked it for him. I guess never imagining that he would actually eat it all and after he was done he asked if there was any more. Ooops! When we brought him the steak he asked for sauces for the steak so we brought him A-1, Heinz 57 and ketchup and he tried all of them.
Then he wanted to know what Lauren was having for dessert. So, he had peaches and ice cream. Yum!
And, then Lauren and I went to Walgreens and dad was upset because we did not tell him we were going (which we so did) and that he had been calling us for hours (no missed calls on my end).
Anywho, pray that today holds peace for Dad for him to find peace with this situation and pray for patience and understanding for us. Pray for God to lead our words and walk around on our shoulder.
Hugs guys ........... I could really use a hug..............
Stephanie
6 years ago
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In my effort to understand this journey that your dad and you all are going on, I found the following on the internet and thought I'd send it:
Being
Often the most difficult role of a physician or a family member is knowing when to "let go" with someone at the end of life and just "to be." We may feel as though we have little to offer the dying patient, yet these wise words from Anatole Broyard, a dying patient, can help us to realize that illness may be eased by the way the doctor (or the family) responds to the patient.
There is a healing power in human presence in simply being.
Just Be
Be yourself and relate person to person.
Be ready to listen again and again.
Be respectful.
Be aware of feelings and non-verbal cues.
Be present.
Be comfortable with silence.
Be human.
Be genuine.
Most of all--Be there.
© Kirsti A. Dyer, MD, MS
Sharing the End of Life
Sharing the wonder and the terror of being on the edge of being is bearing a witness to a person's final journey. Walking with a loved one or a patient on this sacred final path is a very extraordinary and intimate experience, as we learn the importance of just being. Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen offers the following description of being and sharing true intimacy.
We experience intimacy not by sharing words, but by sharing the silence.
In the end of life what matters, what makes the difference, is taking the time to slow down, to hold a hand, to give support, to just be and to share the silence.
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Anyway, I know you are having such a hard time and your dad is not your dad any more. I am so sorry and I pray for you all.
auntshirley
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